Many people pursue efficiency when they fall in love, but in fact, these people pursue "efficiency" and are not really afraid of wasting time. It's the novelty that causes trouble, but the moment the novelty is lost. It will feel boring. What are the changes in the mentality of men and women in love?
1: About singles
Singles first Nian, love is something you can't force yourself to do, just let it happen. After all, they are not worthy of me.
In my second year of being single, it’s actually not bad to fall in love. I have someone to accompany me when I go shopping, someone to buy food when I eat, and I can quarrel to relieve my boredom when I have nothing to do.
In the nth year of being single, I don’t see friends showing affection. Sometimes, I feel pretty when I look at my best friends and brothers.
Two: About Love
In the first year of dating, when you look at the other person, they have their own beauty filter, and there are no shortcomings or shortcomings.
He is not only the most handsome cub on this street, but also the most handsome cub in your life.
In the second year of our relationship, now he will have a cold war with me for a long time over trivial matters as big as sesame seeds and mung beans.
When we had a fight, it was me who took the initiative to apologize, but he didn’t care about me at all.
I find that they seldom consider our future, but when I have difficulties, he will still stand by my side without hesitation.
I know that he still cares about me in his heart, but some things seem to have changed.
In the nth year of love, the passion is less and the relationship seems to have faded.
What I think more about is no longer the romance between the two people, but the relationship between the two families.
I began to try to actively contact his family, get to know his parents, make family plans together, and think about how we should go forward in the future.
We rarely talked about money in the past because we thought it was too vulgar.
But now, we have discovered that if we want to get married, everything requires money, from daily necessities to food, rice, oil and salt, to wedding preparations.
Everything requires money, as well as betrothal gifts. We quarreled countless times over the betrothal gifts.
Now that the wedding is approaching, I feel like we can’t go on together. Is this still the person I firmly chose?
p>3: About Marriage
In the first year of marriage, what is different from living together is that after we get married, our status changes and we are husband and wife.
We are partners who support each other. I feel that the responsibilities on my body are heavy and the pressure on my heart is also great.
But looking at the person next to me who went through all kinds of hardships to get here, I suddenly felt that no matter what storms ahead, I can get through it with him.
In the second year of marriage, the sweetness of newlyweds was quickly overshadowed by the hardships of life.
An upcoming child, aging parents, and monthly car and house payments.
Everything makes us no longer pay attention to the sense of ritual when falling in love, and gradually forget the romantic promises we made at the beginning.
Marriage seems to be just that. After seeing the whole picture of marriage, I have less expectations for it.
In the nth year of marriage, we are used to being silent to each other, and we are used to having problems.
I am used to avoiding marriage and divorce. It’s not that I haven’t thought about it, it’s just that I have been doing this for so many years.
I’m used to being noisy with him, and I’m also used to complaining about him when he does something wrong.
In real marriage, there are always countless helplessness and pains, but fortunately, he is always willing to accompany me.
Is freshness important?
Very important, it allows us to see the most interesting and attractive aspects of a person, but at the same time, freshness often seems to Not that important.
Especially in relationships, in addition to freshness, what we need more is the loyalty and tacit understanding that a relationship brings us.
And the sense of freshness is never to do the same thing with different people, but to try different things with the same person.
