When facing a girl they like, many boys like to pursue them fiercely. However, in this way, even if your conditions are completely worthy of the girl, or even higher than the girl, the girl may not be willing to do anything for you. Your heart flutters. Because your persistent pursuit made her fall into the misunderstanding of self-aggrandizement, and she began to lose sight of how much she weighed. She will really think that she is perfect, a fairy, and not worthy of being a mortal.
No matter whether you are excellent or not, you can only be ignored or even despised. So how can you catch the girl you like? Here are 2 tips to improve your success rate.
1. Impression shaping
If you want to improve your pursuit success rate and make the girl you like fall in love with you, The most important thing to change is your appearance. Of course, this is not to ask you to have plastic surgery, but to keep it basically clean.
For example, don’t keep your nails long. Especially if you have long nails on your little finger, it is not necessary. It would be better if the nails are neatly trimmed.
For example, trim your nose hair. Do you think, when you look at the girl you like lovingly, the hair on your nose is dancing in the wind, the picture is not very beautiful?
For example, take care of your hair every time before going out. Our heads are very short compared to girls, but short and messy are different concepts.
For example, pay attention to your tone. After all, if you have a bad taste in your mouth, it will be a bit unbearable for everyone you talk to.
After talking about the outside world, I especially want to talk to you about the behaviors that ruin your goodwill.
(1) Smoking indoors.
The kind of friend who not only smokes indoors, but also blows smoke right into the face of the girl you like, I know you will think this is cool, but in the end, it is just you.
Besides, most girls don’t like the smell of cigarettes, except for her who smokes.
(2) Bragging.
Self-presentation is necessary, but there is an essential difference between self-presentation and bragging.
I know that sometimes we are so excited that we don’t realize whether we are bragging or not.
One of the simplest ways to judge: observe the girl’s expression and micro-movements.
For example, she shows an impatient expression, or shows a tendency to want to leave.
At this time, you can change the topic to a relaxed one that girls can participate in, or you can just get down to business.
2. Increase intimacy
There is a concept in psychology, the exposure effect. Psychologist Fechner found that when we see familiar things appearing, we will feel like bathing in the spring breeze.
In the same way, the more times she sees us in a relationship, the less strange she will feel, and it will even gradually make her like and enjoy us.
Actually, we have all had such experiences in life. Think about how the tacit understanding between us and our best friends was formed. The more we see each other, the strangeness gradually disappears, and then we get along little by little. As long as we don’t It’s not hard to cross the line and become friends. A few more common topics and interests, the relationship is self-evident.
Of course, we cannot over-expose. Failure to grasp the exposure opportunity will affect your relationship. Some friends are too hasty. They say good morning, good afternoon, and good night every day, interspersed with a few words about "have you eaten" and "what are you doing" in between? They wish they could greet you online 24 hours a day.
It is undeniable that the other party really feels your presence, but it is also true that they dislike you. This kind of overly intensive exposure must not occur before the relationship is established! Because before the relationship is established, you are still far away from the point where you can stick together 24 hours a day and find it interesting even if you do nothing and are in a daze.
Once we do it too frequently, even if we don’t make mistakes, we will give the other party a sense of discomfort that invades quickly. The most correct way is to keep yourself in the opponent's sight from time to time, control the rhythm, and play hard to get.
