Infidelity is a topic that cannot be avoided in marriage. With the opening of ideas, the cost of infidelity has become lower and lower, causing many women to think that infidelity is not a big deal, but the real reasons for these women's infidelity are not It’s not because of meeting true love, nor how good the third party is, but because of this mentality:
One , Blind pursuit of novelty
Of all the things in this world, only feelings are the most "unpopular" and the most unpredictable.
In a long-term and stable intimate relationship, it is inevitable that a period of emotional burnout will occur due to the great overlap between the familiarity and life scenes. Looking at the person next to me, I feel displeased from top to bottom. In fact, all relationships will go through this stage.
But this does not mean that you no longer love each other, but that you are too familiar with each other, so you lack the motivation to continue to operate and maintain the relationship.
Even in your mutual subconscious mind, you will always feel that the person beside you will never leave you.
So he feels that no matter what he has done, you will tolerate him and forgive him because of your love for him.
On the contrary, it gives him the confidence to betray you.
In fact, he didn’t understand what real freshness was from the beginning, and thought he was a different person.
You can arouse your own passion. In fact, everything he does with a third party has been experienced by you. If you don’t know how to manage relationships, no matter how many people you change, the novelty will quickly disappear. .
Because the real freshness is to try different things with the person you truly love, rather than to experience the same feelings with different people.
2. People who are lovelorn within marriage
What is lovelorn within marriage?
It means that both husband and wife neglect the management of the marriage after marriage, the feeling of love gradually disappears, and the marriage truly becomes the tomb of love. It truly and cruelly reveals the normal state of marriage among many couples today.
When many people cheat, the most common reason they use to convince themselves is that "they no longer have feelings for their partner."
But in fact, the love in his mouth has already become an accessory to marriage.
From the beginning of your marriage, the relationship between you two has gradually been squeezed between a series of factors such as responsibilities, children, parents, money, etc.
It wasn’t until the moment one party cheated on her that she realized that she seemed to be looking for an excuse for the broken marriage, so the cheating party desperately used “no feelings” as a shield. At this time, you will find that the relationship between him and the third party is very similar to the scene when you are passionately in love.
BecauseLovelorn love in marriage is a type of numb lovelorn. One of the signs of lovelorn love in marriage is that there is no longer any feeling between the two parties, just like the left hand touching the right hand.
Therefore, many people cannot resist the temptation of the outside world and seek the passion and freshness that have been missing in their marriage through cheating.
3. The selfish mentality of only loving oneself
Many people who cheat have never considered being betrayed. Will your old love be heartbroken, and will your deceived new love be hurt?
Their priority is always the instant gratification of their desires.
Such a person will always love only himself in his heart. In front of the old love, he will cry and blame himself on the new love, packaging himself as a victim of being deceived.
In front of the new love, he or she will lie and claim that he has broken up with the old love, but in fact he is in two different situations. He wants both the new love and the old love.
But no matter what the reason for cheating is, cheating itself is harmful to others and yourself. If you are unfortunate enough to be cheated on, don’t be soft-hearted.
Love should not be the only thing in your life. Your life, relatives, friends, and career should all be more important than love.
