I believe that people who have been in love should have this feeling: at the beginning of the relationship, two people feel very passionate, and they will not feel any problem if they are tired of being together all the time. But as the relationship lasted for a long time, the two people seemed to have lost the passion they had before, and they felt very dull and boring together. So after being in love for a long time, will you feel nothing?
Let me say something very heartbreaking:
Passionate love, in a long-term intimate relationship, is itself a false proposition. Similarly, the love period is a short-lived, abnormal, and irreversible behavior in any intimate relationship. Many people, especially girls, always expect that after establishing a relationship, their partner's love for them will become stronger and stronger, at least not going back. The longer they are together, the higher the requirements for their partners, and they look forward to returning again. To the original love.
But in the end, almost everyone was disappointed on this issue: and the reason for the failure is actually very simple - these people mistook the excitement of the passionate love period for what a long-term relationship should be like. This in itself is a particularly unrealistic thing.
In other words, the so-called "feeling" is actually a particularly hypocritical thing. The so-called heartbeat is just a hormone produced by the body, which stimulates the secretion of dopamine in the brain, causing you to have physiological reactions such as heartbeat, blushing, and elation. And this "feeling", in most cases, is not that we really fall in love with this person, but more that we fall in love with this person's [certain qualities].
For example, a sexy body, a dazzling talent, a cheerful personality... But this kind of attraction will gradually be attracted by you and even be forgotten as the time you spend together increases. Because from a psychological point of view, people's aesthetic preferences will change. Likewise, any attractive qualities are highly replaceable.
You used to like gentle girls, but after five years, you may start to favor girls with personality;
You may have liked little girls before, but maybe after working for a few years, Gradually, I have a soft spot for girls like Yu Jie;
You may have fallen in love with this girl for her beauty before, but maybe after a few years, you began to slowly ignore her appearance... .
At the beginning, being with someone we like often gives us the illusion that if we live with her, happiness for the rest of our lives is just around the corner. But these people who regard love as a once-and-for-all are also the ones who are prone to fall the hardest in love - because the background of life itself is to find happiness in the ordinary, rather than forcing two people to create passion in trivial matters.
To be honest, when you are truly invested in a love, you will easily find that the touch hidden in the ordinary can make people feel happier than the surprises deliberately created. .
What is romance in the ordinary period?
It means that if you are thirsty in the middle of the night, poke next to someone and someone can give you some water. It means that you are sick and call out Two calls, someone can give you medicine. Even if you are sad, there is always someone you can trust absolutely, who can hear your feelings.
Why are you still unable to express these feelings that already exist? Are you aware of it? It’s because you take these things for granted and always think that passion is the expression of love. You just ignore that the so-called passion is just the emotion that a person painstakingly creates, and in the ordinary period Truth is the expression of a person’s subconscious love.
Remember: Don’t use the beauty of the love period to kidnap the daily necessities of ordinary life. “No matter how much you want to maintain freshness, you can’t keep it. Live. After being together for a long time, you will discover all kinds of shortcomings of your partner, and you will also experience all kinds of dissatisfaction in life. ”
Summary: Two people have been together for a long time and have no feelings for each other. This is a normal thing. Don’t forget that calmness and trust are what a long-term relationship should look like. People who love each other often lack romance the most in their lives. What they lack is just the eyes to discover romance.
