No matter how many chat routines you learn, how many techniques you use to flirt with girls, and how to attract girls, if you don’t know what are the taboos in the relationship between men and women, and what are the forbidden areas that girls cannot touch, you will only end up with one trick. If you step on the wrong foot, you will fall short. < /p>
This situation is too common!
Many, many brothers think that they have given gifts to girls, devoted time and energy to girls, and are "nice" to her, so she should , you must like yourself.
Why?
Because I am good to you and I have given you so much, then you must repay me and like me.
In the eyes of some boys, feelings conform to this principle of equivalent exchange.
Is it true?
Feelings are just like buying and selling in the market. If you give money, they will sell them to you?
Yes, feelings This thing does have the principle of equivalent exchange.
But this equivalent exchange will never happen to a boy’s unilateral contribution!
The equivalent exchange of feelings is:
You like this girl , when she makes an emotional investment in you, you should return it in time and give the girl emotional rewards.
On the other hand, if a girl likes you, if you invest in her, she will repay you.
However, if this girl doesn’t like you, there is no equivalent exchange between you. Because you don’t have what she needs, your self-righteous contribution is not what girls need.
It’s like at a flea market, if a person wants to exchange his necklace for a watch, but you don’t have a watch, and you exchange it with him for a floor clock that he doesn’t need, then you must exchange it for it. Less than this necklace.
So when a girl clearly doesn’t like you, giving blindly will not win your heart!
Only when a girl has a good impression of you and is ambiguous about you, can you get what you put in Due reward.
2. Don’t know how to pull away at the right time
To love is to love until the sea is dry and the rocks are rotten, the mountains have no edges, and the heaven and the earth are If you are together, you dare to break up with you.
This is a love motto that many brothers believe in. When they pursue a girl, they pay attention to "loyalty."
Even if... people don't like you at all.
He will pursue it to the end and will never give up easily just because he is rejected once or twice.
If this spirit is used elsewhere, it is praiseworthy!
But love is a matter of two people, and we must pay attention to the fit, especially the fit in personality and three views. .
Most girls will reject youIt's not that the gift you gave her wasn't good enough, or that your sincerity didn't impress her, it's just that the two of you are not suitable.
For two people whose outlook and personality are not compatible, even if the girl can’t stand your persuasion and agrees, you will have to live together in the future, right...
Let’s get along. After that, some of the areas where you couldn't get along slowly surfaced until they exploded, making the family restless. Do you think this kind of brotherly love is meaningful?
Even if you want to hang yourself from a tree, that's okay. It depends on whether this death is worth it.
Those who commit suicide after being rejected or breaking up, your death is worthless in the eyes of the other party, she will not shed a tear for you, and she may even feel lucky: Fortunately, I did not go to such an extreme point. people together.
Therefore, when you are pursuing a girl and find that she is not interested in you at all, please remember to get out in time.
The twisted melon is really not sweet.
3. Offending a girl's reverse scales
Everyone has an itch in their hearts when they touch it, and it itch when they press it. The taboo of pain, or -
Reverse scale!
For example, going on a date with a girl while wearing a head of dandruff;
Or the language when chatting Too sharp, scolding someone in front of her, but she didn't expect that the person you scolded was her relative.
These behaviors that are annoying to girls are just to touch her inverse scales and let girls sentence you to death and eliminate you directly.
When pursuing a girl, there are some things you shouldn’t say and things you shouldn’t do. You can’t say or do them.
Although it is impossible to know what every girl is taboo about, but by remembering the following, you can ensure that you will not make some basic mistakes!
Girls will not like a girl with greasy hair. , a smelly man, clean up and see her again;
Unless a girl smokes, don’t smoke in front of her. If you are addicted to cigarettes, you can apologize to her first and smoke in an open place outside;
Don’t be careless, touch a girl’s sensitive parts at will without establishing a relationship, or put your arms around her like a buddy. .
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Be humble as a person. If you feel that some of the girls’ opinions and remarks are low, you can put them forward tactfully. Don’t be “teaching others” and criticize them directly.
If you can do these things, basically except for girls with special circumstances, you will basically not touch a girl’s reverse scales without knowing it.
4. NoKnow how to "hold hands"
In this era, if you date a girl without even touching your hands, the girl will not think you are a gentleman.
She will only suspect that you don’t really like her.
But as soon as you get up, you hold her hand tightly and hold her shoulders like a buddy you haven’t seen for many years, and girls won’t think you are enthusiastic.
She will think you are a prodigal.
Many brothers have made mistakes on this issue!
Some brothers are afraid that touching girls will make them look like gangsters, so they are determined not to cross the line and never touch them.
But it’s not that scary!
Take action when it’s time to take action. Even if it’s the first time you meet, you won’t have no chance to hold a girl’s hand.
For example, when we are climbing a mountain together, you can hold her hand at a high place; when it is cold and the girl is shivering from the cold, you can hold her little hand to check it out, and cover her hand to warm her up.
If we can make an appointment for the second or third time, there will be more opportunities.
For example, if you can meet for the second or third time, it means that the girl has a lot of affection for you, and the two of you are very familiar with each other.
When walking on the street in a crowded place, putting your arm around her shoulders appropriately is not rude. Instead, it shows your gentlemanly demeanor in protecting her.
Don’t think that physically moving with a girl is violating her, or that a man eats a woman. Brother, this is a feudal mentality that has long been out of tune with modern society!
But some boys go too far and think that the chat between him and a girl online is very ambiguous, so she will definitely not refuse when they meet. His own "intimate contact", so he started to touch others when they met for the first time.
Therefore, the question of holding hands is not whether you can, but whether you are holding hands with the right person at the right occasion and at the right time.
The right person is the one who has a good impression of you.
Ignoring these three elements and treating girls carelessly, you will definitely face fierce resistance and be saddled with the reputation of a gangster.
